Can a person choose how to react to verbal abuse?

Words can hurt. No matter what people say, they can. Big time. When I was young my parents used to say “schelden doet geen pijn” which translates into “calling someone names does not hurt”. Well, fuck, they didn't know how wrong they were. read more

Yes they can choose, However the person committing the verbal abuse is making a choice to hurt others emotionally. So they often will feel mad, sad, hurt, unworthy.If it goes on over and over especially from someone who is loved one you can expect that after a while you have hurt them. read more

Scan your relationships for kinds of verbal and emotional abuse. You can be emotionally abused by a partner, a parent, a friend, or anyone you are close to or who has power over you. Verbal abuse expert Patricia Evans defines the following 15 categories of abuse: Withholding. read more

Learn about abuse so you can recognize all the tactics that the abuser uses. Work on building your self-esteem so you will gain the strength to set boundaries. When you are strong enough, use simple statements that speak to the abuse (if it is safe to do so). Tell the abuser not to speak to you that way. read more