Do women ever send men messages on internet dating sites?

Women find that when we do message men first on dating sites that they perceive us as less desirable. I do coach women on online dating, and I tell them that even winking or favoriting men does not work. We've set up teams and tried first contact, then run the numbers. read more

According to research, women who send messages to men are twice as likely to receive a response compared to men who start conversations. We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case. read more

According to OKCupid's research, most women do not send the first message. Straight women in particular are 3.5 times less likely than men to send the first message. And this isn't even because of how many messages straight women already have in their inboxes: Whether they have zero, 10 or 1,000 messages in there, they still won't initiate a message. read more